6 Common Lies People Tell When Dating
If you’ve ever tried online dating, you’ve probably met people in person and thought “that’s not what their picture looked like!” Unfortunately, it’s fairly common for people to post pictures that are out of date and/or photo-shopped to make them seem more appealing.
That’s not the only way people attempt to deceive you as they try to get ahead in the dating game. Even people who are fairly honest in normal circumstances have been known to fib about things when they’re starting to date. Here are a few of the most common lies that people tell, so watch out.
A fairly high percentage of men lie about their income, because they know this may be important to the women they want to date. A study by BeautifulPeople.com found that on average, you need to subtract about 40% from men’s stated salary to find out what he’s really making. Your results may vary, but take what he says with a grain of salt.
A lot of people, both men and women, lie about their age. This applies whether you’re looking at their profile online, or going through one of the early dates with them. Most people just shave two or three years, but some may adjust their birth date by as many as ten years. Unless they look far younger than they are, it’s hard to pull a lie like that off.
#3 Past Relationships
Not everyone has a great background when it comes to relationships, and they may have reasons they want to cover this up. Who wants to admit they’ve had a string of 14 straight failed relationships? And nobody wants to tell you the reason their marriage ended was that they were found in the shower with their ex’s best friend.
#4 Job Description
More than a third of daters in a recent survey admitted to lying about some aspect of their job. Many men will exaggerate their career position or responsibilities, inflating their job title and importance. Women, on the other hand, have been known to lie the other way, downplaying how important their position is, to avoid intimidating possible mates.
Whether it’s lying about their car, their bank account, or their world travel experiences, quite a few people lie about their life experiences. Have they really travelled across Europe? Do they really spend frequent vacations cruising the Caribbean? Lies in this category can often be uncovered with a little exploratory questioning. If they’ve really gone rock climbing in the Sierras, they should be able to tell you a lot of details about it.
#6 Interests & Hobbies
Sometimes vague questions on online questionnaires can lead people to misleading answers in this area. If they say they’re interested in skiing, does that mean they’re hotshot skiers who spend weeks on the slopes each winter, or that they love watching the slalom events on the Olympics? Also, many people will claim interests they’re not all that keen on, in order to portray a certain image. For instance, a woman who really loves shopping and pedicures might say she loves hiking and camping in order to sound active and outdoorsy, because that’s the kind of man she wants to attract.