6 Tips For A Successful Dating Profile
When you want to start online dating, you need to create your profile. This can be a challenge. Your photos and your written profile are the major factors people will use in deciding whether to date you or not. Adding to that pressure, there is the fact that a lot of people don’t like to talk about themselves. How much should you toot your own horn? Here are some tips to writing a successful dating profile.
Rough It Out First
Start with a list of the fundamental things you want to include. You can flesh it out later, and it’s usually easiest if you make a list of key points before you begin writing. You can use these questions to get started.
- What do you want to convey about your personality? Are you hardworking, optimistic, fun-loving, or loyal?
- What are your main interests? This is where you can talk about your love for hiking, film noir, or Chinese food.
- What qualities are you are looking for in a partner? Do you want someone who is intelligent, athletic, or successful?
Unfortunately, most dating sites today make you enter your age, and they display this fairly prominently to other people. It’s also used as a filter, so that if you specify you want somebody age 30 to 50, it can select those profiles to show you. The standard advice is not to lie about this, because starting any relationship with a lie is not a good beginning. The fact is that many people (both men and women) do lie about their age on these sites.
Include Other Big Basics
If you have three young kids at home, mention this up front, don’t just spring it on your date later. Also, say something about your intentions. Are you looking for someone to share the rest of your life, or just some short term dating?
Get In The Mood
When you’re ready to start writing, do something to put you in a good frame of mind. Put on some dancing music, an outfit you love, or have a glass of wine. If you are feeling happy, desirable, and fun, it helps those qualities to shine through in your writing.
Make It Interesting
Don’t just state the facts as though they were police evidence. Instead of saying “Interests: hiking”, talk about how much you love a particular local trail, or the time you went backpacking and got caught in a storm. If your profile is interesting, they will get the idea that you’re interesting too.
Good Photos Are Key
People make a lot of dating decisions based on profile pictures. While it is possible to set up a profile without a photo, this will limit your dating options, because many people aren’t interested in anybody who doesn’t show a photo. Make sure to select pictures that show you at your best. If you have a shot of you doing one of your favorite activities, then that can communicate something about your personality at the same time. Also, be sure to use a current photo. If your date discovers you look ten years older than your picture, that’s probably the last you’ll see of them.
You don’t need to do it all in one sitting. It’s fine to put something up that’s fairly brief, then expand on it later. You can also go back and update your profile whenever you want, so you don’t need to have it perfect the first time.